As this is actually Pride month I want to reflect on the state of the community, because some ugly truths are surfacing and we need not only to address them but also to grow up a wee bit. I promise to go back to writing about the theatre but this feels too important.


The truth is our tribe is made up of many different people. Some want to function and interact with the world they know, suburbia, middle class, house and kids and dog, others do not, nor do they live by these conventions. Several generations are now pushing hard on the binary system, as well as the western nuclear family model. A model used as a tool to deconstruct indigenous culture, and to control society.


No matter what path we take we will always be other, as hard as you try you will always be seen as outside the norm. Will this change? Possibly, but not in my lifetime.

So my request to other white male queer men, please step up and stop being a tool.

Pride has been turned into a safe event full of liquor stands and rainbow products. It is one giant corporate party. How did we let this happen?

Pride started as a riot, and in some ways should remain one. It has been about equality for all, not just those that pass. Remember, it is the black drag queens, trans women and dykes who threw the first brick, both at Stonewall and Compton Cafeteria in San Francisco. Stop treating fem men and the gender queer as pariah. Stop the blatant racism towards men of color; make room for the trans and gender fluid members whether or not you think they belong. The world puts them in our camp and it is our duty  to make room for them. Stop the ageist crap because you will all be in those shoes no matter how much surgery you can afford. Just stop and try to see the world through their eyes, and then let them speak. Do not speak for them. They have their own voice and their own words. Help them gain a platform for their voice and step back.


As a community we have gone through criminalization, to freedom, to the plague, to equal rights on marriage. The face and voice that has dominated these struggles in the media is that of the white gay man. Who, as time has passed, has consistently taken on an uber masculine front. “Look! We don’t behave like queer men, we are just as manly and, apparently obtuse, as the straight man”


Our difference is what sets us apart, it defines us. It is more than sexual attraction and love–it is in the way we view the world.


With the onslaught of AIDS we pushed a body image of strength, health, hairless and clean. There has always been body worship within the queer community, but we used to have room for many body types. Queer media pushes the buff macho man. The result of this has been a rise of body dismorphia and eating disorders in our young.


As to the response from a large part of the white queer world claiming it’s a “preference” referring to queer men and women of color being sectioned out of dating aps, it is about as transparent as it gets.

Whatever your personal opinions and your insecurities about homosexuality and the various liberation movements among homosexuals and women (and I speak of the homosexuals and women as oppressed groups), we should try to unite with them in a revolutionary fashion.

I say, ”whatever your insecurities are” because as we very well know, sometimes our first instinct is to want to hit a homosexual in the mouth, and want a woman to be quiet. We want to hit a homosexual in the mouth because we are afraid that we might be homosexual; and we want to hit the women or shut her up because we are afraid that she might castrate us, or take the nuts that we might not have to start with.”

These are the words of Huey P. Newton the founder of the Black Panther Party. He knew, as many of my white queer brothers have forgotten, that no one is free until we all are free.

Stop trying to be law-abiding citizens, the perfect community member. Do you think we would have achieved lower AIDS drug prices, the right to marry, the right to be without fear of arrest had we been polite?

Does this make you uncomfortable? Good, because the fight isn’t even close to being over. Things to remember: the disgraceful and shameful petition put forward by queer white folk to exclude and disassociate from Trans people. This is a day that will remain a black stain on our community. (Look up Drop the T petition) started in 2014

Chechnya has installed death camps for queer men in 2017 and our government is not giving them asylum

Gay men in Chechnya are being tortured and killed … – The Guardian

https://www.theguardian.com › Opinion › LGBT rights


The evangelical wing has poisoned much of the African nations and continues to spread and preach hate resulting in the persecution and murder of our brothers and sisters trying to live their lives.


How Uganda was seduced by anti-gay conservative evangelicals …

http://www.independent.co.uk › News › World › Africa


Why Africa is a hotbed of homophobia | World news | The Guardian

https://www.theguardian.com › World › LGBT rights


The Christian right, as well as targeting women’s reproductive rights, are removing the rights we had fought for and marched for here on US soil.

Why President Trump Isn’t Anti-Gay Enough for the Religious Right


We have all gotten way to comfortable. Time to sit up, band together, and make a stand. And if Citibank feels like their float isn’t the “message” they want to support, fuck them and their float, this is about our lives and our freedoms.






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